It’s a statement on the fact that the children are being held hostage, and that this is how the pattern will be made to continue.
You have to decide whether you are ok with this pattern continuing. If it’s possible to do it without harming the children, then that is what must be done.
If it’s better to let this pattern continue, then thats also an ok choice. But at least the costs must be articulated and accepted. People can know what role they are playing in this relationship; the tradeoffs they found unacceptable.
It’s a statement on the fact that the children are being held hostage, and that this is how the pattern will be made to continue.
You have to decide whether you are ok with this pattern continuing. If it’s possible to do it without harming the children, then that is what must be done.
If it’s better to let this pattern continue, then thats also an ok choice. But at least the costs must be articulated and accepted. People can know what role they are playing in this relationship; the tradeoffs they found unacceptable.