I've done all that stuff too. It sucks for me because the pool is pretty modest hereabouts. I haven't sent ~150 unanswered messages, for example, because there aren't 150 women I'd message in Perth.
When I stopped taking it seriously, my results improved. Periodically I get bored and close my account for a few months. When I come back I rewrite my profile. It's fun. Very liberating. Try it.
(There's also the time-honoured tactic of spawn camping -- on OKC you can sort profiles by newness).
Yeah, the thing is, after that many messages sent, done thick-skinnedly, in a big pool, with a friend who also is short, though slightly taller (5'7"), with him doing significantly better, and after lots of previous attempts AND lots of attempts in real life, I am at the end of my tether with the inevitable emotional pain involved.
There has to come a time when you think the cost of an activity exceeds any possible benefit, and the EV of this is starting to look pretty bad.
The thing is that the emotional cost is something you are creating. It is you who are generating the emotion of dismay, not the other parties. And only you can fix that.
When I stopped taking it seriously, my results improved. Periodically I get bored and close my account for a few months. When I come back I rewrite my profile. It's fun. Very liberating. Try it.
(There's also the time-honoured tactic of spawn camping -- on OKC you can sort profiles by newness).